Sooner or later everyone comes to this type of difficulty. Relationships with others are certainly a source of great joy but also of great suffering, which can sometimes persist.
It happens that we can get used to the idea that nothing now can ever change anymore.
Let's say that you can change, but this change is not to be found outside of us, it’s not about waiting for things or others to change.
If I do not want to have conflicts with those around me I have to start by myself, by my inner change. It is a transformation that starts from the inside and will then influence the outside, a little like it happens in physics in centrifugal motion.
It happens instead quite often that I expect this change from others, waiting sometimes even years.
So why live in expectation that something will change , according to my personal point of view , instead of taking the moment and be me to try to change attitude towards that person, that situation , that answer ?
I believe this change is to be sought , starting from personal improvement , that if on one hand it means to be or become aware of ist personal limitations and want to trasform them, on the the other it is to recognize what I have inside myself over that limit. Human life is immense and with so many gifts : and so is my it is the one of others.
So, if I change my view and perceive the beauty that’s in me , I will be able to see it in others.
It is my humanity that makes me able to not only see the others arrogance, their being wrong, their lies and mistakes . And it's always my humanity that keeps my of opening my wounds and to rise my walls.
Humanity is a essential value that has to be cultivated and watered with care, because it makes us better: it's a perfect cure for the heart, which removes anger and resentment and gives serenity and a open point of view, allowing to turn even the more unmerciful judgment.
Then it will be joy and not more anger to accompany my days.
A big hug, Rossella
"Man must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression, retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love "
Martin Luther King, Speech for the Nobel Prize in 1964.
